If you’ve ever heard yourself saying, or thinking… ‘But I’d feel bad if I didn’t’ ‘I feel so guilty if I take time for myself’ ‘Looking after myself is so selfish when there are other people less fortunate than me!’ Then, this one’s definitely for you! The problem with guilt is that it’s such a […]
Read MoreAs passionate women who are committed to making an impact in the world, we tend to say yes a shitload more than we say no. Imagine: 1. A colleague asks you if you could do a bit of extra work as they won’t get round to it and they’ve got a really important deadline to meet. […]
Read MoreI’ve been looking after my sister’s hamster for the last week. While being a zippy little thing and quite cute, she also has a problem. All she’s been focused on is escaping. And I mean that’s all she wants to do. I’ve had hamsters before, and yeah, they’ve all chewed the bars and driven me […]
Read MoreGot a to-do list on the go? Got it with you right now? Good. Now rip it up. I’m being serious. Rip it up, just today. You are more than your to-do list. You are more than the sum of everything you have to do today. If, and only if, the world will end if […]
Read MoreWhen was the last time you made a decision for yourself without relying on others? For some, that might not even be an issue, for others, it’s a bit of a wake up call. Giving decisions away I have always relied on others to help me make decisions. I find big decisions scary, and have […]
Read MoreSome people are just dreamshitters, soul crushers and downright mean.* I think you know who I’m talking about. That friend who patronises your ideas and points out all the flaws in any plan before you’ve even finished your sentence. The teachers, the older relatives who want you to just be realistic. Or the people who […]
Read MoreI recently had the (un)pleasant experience of travelling to Glasgow via a Megabus Sleeper Service, and, in my pursuit to find a silver lining in the situation (I had seven and a half hours), I learned a valuable life lesson. There are things that are possible in life. There are things that are pleasant in […]
Read MoreI haven’t got time to relax What’s spare time? Slow down? Are you serious? I have so much to do. Everything will fall apart if I take my eyes off the ball. This sound familar? I’ve certainly found myself saying a lot in the past, and these kind of phrases are something I hear often […]
Read MoreWe all have bad days. For some of us they’re one offs. For others, they show up pretty regularly. It’s not about banishing the bad days, because like good old Dolly tells us, ‘if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain’. But it’s about being able to deal with crappy days […]
Read MoreI would love a nice garden. A lovely garden with flowers of every colour, a nice patio set and some home-made lemonade, outside where I do my best work. The reality is that right now, my life is super busy, and even mowing the lawn (it’s not even a big lawn) only happens when we realise […]
Read MoreWe’re our own worst enemies. We push ourselves harder and harder. We expect to get three times the work done in a third of the time. Then we berate ourselves when our immune systems start failing us and when we’re not achieving what we wanted to. Why? Because we think we’re super-human? Probably. The more […]
Read MorePicture the scene. It’s been a hard few weeks. You just want to relax. Everyone has seemed to want something from you, the bags under your eyes look bigger than your credit card bills, you yawn more than you talk and you can’t remember then last time your brain just shut up. So you’ve taken […]
Read MoreI’ve written before on my blog about how inspired I get by big adventures and taking risks. You know what it’s like. You’re watching your favourite team on a Saturday night (or like me, watching Nashville) and you’re rooting for them to score (or get back together). You’re watching your friend take make a big […]
Read MoreI should first start with this. I love plans. I am a complete nerd. I love planning. I hardly ever stick to them, but there’s something about the sense of control, the reduction of anxiety, and the idea of dreams becoming reality that I find really appealing. Not quite Ryan Gosling appealing though. I’ll leave […]
Read MoreI have grown up with a strong sense of selflessness and caring for others. As I’ve written about before, in the past, I’ve really struggled with doing my best, putting healthy boundaries around my work and my personal life, and taking on too much. Sometimes this has manifested in the form of illness (both physical and […]
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